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pushing through pain

Dear White Woman,

Push through pain. Stay in it. Birthing hurts no matter how beautiful. Normalize discomfort. Yes, it sucks. But it's the bridge to us connecting and doing this together.


a Black woman

Mujer Blanca

Mujer Blanca,

Que tal si tu haces un esfuerzo para conocerme!

learn from your wisdom

Dear Woman of Color,

I will listen and hope to learn from your wisdom. I thank you for not giving up on me!

historical mistrust

Dear White Woman,

There is a historical mistrust between us. Your white women ancestors were, with a few exceptions, silent when my ancestors were sold away from their kids or r*ped. Silence is violence. Don't be silent.

don't touch my hair

Dear White Women,

Please don't touch my hair. Period Pooh!


parts of an apology

Dear White Woman,

Parts of an apology

  • expressing regret

  • accepting responsibility

  • genuinely promising change

  • requesting forgiveness


listen & hope

Dear Woman of Color,

I will listen + hope to learn from your wisdom. I thank you for not giving up on me!

let's learn

Dear White Woman,

Let's talk, let's learn together and... let's start and keep doing more than we think we can handle. 



One White Woman

it's not about you

Dear Mujer Blanca,

Speaking another language around you does not mean we are talking about you. No todo es sobre ti.


better sisters

Dear White Sister - 

I feel like getting to be better sisters across racial lines could begin with us learning to be better sisters to and for one another. Do you?



a white woman

wanting to connect

Dear Women of Color,

I am so very sorry for all the lies I believed about you and the terrible effects this had on you. I know my beliefs were transparent by how I looked at and treated you. I apologize for still having to correct initial moments of biased thoughts. I am very sad that I missed out on knowing you. I really want to connect, and I promise to do better.

we are sisters

Dear women of color,


We are sisters above all and that is a connection of the heart. I commit to listen, cry, standup, share the load, and celebrate with you.


Love, light and joy,

A continuously evolving white woman

everything I was taught

Dear Women of Color,

A few years ago, I finally had the wool removed from my eyes and learned that everything I had been taught in my schools, by my parents, and in my society as it pertained to people of color was a lie and that the system I live in and benefit from on a daily basis has been designed to keep me racist and you the target of that racism. And that really fucking pisses me off. But I know now, and am working to retrain my brain but I’m going off of 34 years of conditioning over here and it’s going to take me a minute to undo that damage.

Kristina Bechtel

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